He Said I Asked For It; But He Was In For A Shock
That's what he said to me.
And to his remark I responded:
(( I'm all about the compassion and love vibes - but I'm not going to have my body threatened. ))
This morning, fresh out of a hot yoga class - I was dripping with sweat and walking to get a coffee. I was happy, thinking about my practice and soaking in the sun's warmth.
*He* saw me and from across the street, started making fingering motions at me colorfully describing his fantasies about me - TO ME.
I told him he was ridiculous and to fuck off. (duh)
He told me I was a slut - asking for it literally because I was walking right in front of his face. Not because I was "dressed for the attention" -but because I was a woman in his line of vision.
He proceeded to tell me I was lucky it was daylight - because, at night, he'd outrun me and have me down.
I stood my ground. I didn't feel unsafe. If it were night - i wouldn't have engaged, so please don't assume I'd be careless.
But you better believe I'll say something when it's safe to do so.
WHY TELL YOU?
Because at the same time I was speaking, I could hear all the *well-intentioned* voices of those that love me, telling me to IGNORE HIM. Let it go. It's not worth it.
WELL, I DISAGREE.
It's my job to speak.
For those alongside me whose voices are weak.
For the bodies that need protecting and defending.
I am both a sensual and sexual woman. I have a commanding presence that both intrigues and intimidates men.
This is not my problem.
My power and my sexual energy are mine to own, love and celebrate.
I don't always feel it - I still get ruffled by things like today - or by judgments from others that I'm showing too much skin, dressing too cute or being too confident in my gait -
after all - in the end - when something bad happens - there's always someone showing up - dismissively shaming and saying that somehow -
"I asked for it"
Let it be known, for myself and everyone who's ever walked in these shoes -
I'm asking for nothing
AND DEMANDING EVERYTHING.
With this, my body, my skin and the soul of the person it holds within -
My honor is not up for discussion.
Respect is not an option.
not matter how much or how little I'm wearing -
My body IS ALWAYS ASKING FOR IT:
No explanation or apologies needed.
I'm proud of my form and have full right to celebrate it without being sexualized or assaulted for my confident existence.