I know a lot of dreamers. Some of them make their dreams come true and others just keep dreaming. Why? What marks the difference between those that dream and those that do?
I’ll tell you, from my experience as a personal strategist, that when I work with people, no matter where they’re at, that the same things keep coming up. The same hold backs. The same habits and the same beliefs. Sure, they show up differently depending on the person and their situation, but the core issues are the same.
“Dreamers to that do” believe they have what it takes and are willing to do what it takes to make it happen.
“Dreamers that don’t” believe they can’t because of their beliefs or circumstances, so they abandon the vision.
So to be clear, here’s what keeps dreamers from doing:
- Belief that they can’t
- Not enough money
- Too big - HOW?
But shift those 3 states and you’ll shift everything.
Step One: Believe that you can. You can do whatever you want to do when you want it badly enough. Look at what you’re dreaming of; look at what you want most in life? Is it to travel the world, start your own business or movement, create financial freedom for yourself or others? What’s your really big dream? Do me a favor and get as specific as you can here. Take a minute - even a few seconds - to just go there in your mind. Usually when I lead people into this question, a secret pipe dream comes to mind that if it happened they’d be ecstatic and freak out, but they doubt it will ever happen. What’s that pipe dream for you? Is it an amount of money? Is it a change you’d create? Is it doing something you love and getting paid well for it?
You know what that thing is and you know the doubt you feel when you think about it. Why do you doubt it? Usually it comes down to ability and money, right? You’re not sure you can do it or if you should do it. Maybe you don’t think you’re smart enough, you don’t have the right credentials, you’re too young or old, it will be too hard or be too risky. Any of those things something you’ve felt before? Here’s the thing. No one’s ever actually ready. Did you know that baby birds have to leap from the nest to learn to fly? You’ll learn to flap if you decide ahead of time that you will learn to flap. Sure, you might crash. But you’re smart and resilient. You can get back up and try again. Lucky you!
Step Two: The money thing. You have it but you’re afraid to spend it. You don’t have it so you can’t imagine having more of it. You have just enough of it and don’t want to risk losing any of it. You can’t admit that you want more of it because you don’t want to be greedy or selfish. Holy shit, there are so many beliefs here that as long as you hold to them, there will always be a great divide between you and your big dreams. But on the flip side, if you can open yourself to some new thoughts, new paradigms and beliefs, you’ll build a bridge from where you are, across the chasm to where you want to be. You’ve got to deal with your beliefs around money. First of, you need to embrace the FACT that money isn’t bad and neither is having it! Yes, there are a lot of people out there doing bad things with money, but money is the tool, not the evil. If you are a good person (and I think you probably are) then the more money you make, the more good you’ll be able to do for others right? I have way more to say on that one, but for now, let’s leave it at that. Money is not evil. The person with the money decides how the money will be used. Choose good and you’ll do good. ‘Nuff said.
Second point about money? If your dream is important to you, then invest in it. Look at your gross income each month or year. Commit to setting aside 5% - 15% of it to the building of your big dream. If you can do more, do more. Then write a list of what you’d need to build your business and the money you’d need to save or create to make that happen. Prioritize that list and label each need on the list as something you can do or something you need to outsource to someone with more experience or time. Invest where you know you can. It won’t always feel comfortable but change only happens outside your comfort zone. So save and spend where you know you need to. And where you can’t? Be resourceful. You are brilliant. I know it and you know it deep down, no matter how many layers of fear, self doubt or insecurity you might be hiding behind. So if your funds are limited, offer someone a work trade. Attend free workshops. Go to the library. Join a mastermind. There are always options. Saying there aren’t options is just another way you sabotage yourself.
Step Three: Dream smarter. This is the last point I need to make and it’s vital. So many dreams get die away because people get too overwhelmed by not knowing the how. I get it. I’m over here telling you to dream big, that you can and that money and life shouldn’t hold you back, and you’re over there reading this thinking to yourself that it’s easy for me to say, after all, I’ve never been in your shoes.
You’re right. I’ve never been in your shoes. But I’ve sure as hell been in my own. Single mom to 3 growing boys, not knowing how in the world I was going to come up with rent next month; much less food. I’ve been in my shoes and it’s been hard AF. I cried myself to sleep, pounded at the floor and lost sleep battling the how of building my business and my big dreams.
And you know what changed everything?
3 BIG F*CKING THINGS:
- Mindset. I HAD to shift the way I was thinking, speaking and doing. (Mindset is everything. The wrong mindsets will imprison you and the right mindset can set you free both in your life and financially.
- Clarity. I had to figure out me; stop being what everyone else expected me to be, build a business that was meant for me and show up in my truth.
- Dream big, but set small goals. Big dreams get abandoned because they’re too big and you can’t imagine how it’s all going to come together. So set a vision for you big dream. Make it clear and detailed. But then, create 3 - 5 mile marker goals that will be the stepping stones that get you there. And for each of the mile markers, list out what needs to be done to get there. Literally focus on meeting each goal one at a time.
Focus on one goal at a time, just like you climb one step at a time to get to the top of a mountain, it’s the same with building your dreams. Celebrate your wins along the way. Get an accountability partner or hire a coach to keep you inspired and making the smartest choices possible along the way.
Your dreams aren’t too big; they should be big. That’s what a dream is! But to realize the dream, you need to have a plan and stick to it with passion, purpose and resourcefulness. Don’t waste your brilliance. You are who you are for a reason, but only you can be the one that makes it come true.
And of course, I want to help you get there. Talk to me and tell me where you’re at. I provide personal brand identity strategy, as well as mindset alignment for dreamers tired of being held back by confusion and overwhelm and are ready to finally do the thing. Click here, the first one’s always free.
I believe in you.